Sex is my favorite form of adult play (second is adult swim!). Far too often, we can get stuck in the performance of sex versus the playfulness sex can be. And when this happens, sex can feel far from playful. Here are two strategies for bringing playfulness into your sexy time experience.
Communication is a key component during any sexual encounter and this can include using dirty talk to build arousal. The thought of dirty talk can make people immediately feel like their acting, on performance, and all they feel is stage fright. But it’s more about finding your own style of dirty talk.
Tips for creating your own style of dirty talk:
During sexplay activities focus on enjoying the pleasurable experiences rather than focusing on your performance. Stimulate pleasurable touch throughout your experience with yourself or your partner and focus on the sensations you feel:
Focus on building anticipation inside and outside of the bedroom (examples: hugging, kissing, cuddling, laughing, sharing time together, etc.)
Lead by example during these activities, touch your partners' body the way you want your body to be touched.
Think of ways to make yourself feel sexier this may include: